Amy says:

I think in general 2LF salsa guys are very polite and gentlemanly - yay! One thing that I would feel very uncomfortable about is if my partner's hand comes too close to the side of my body in a closed hold. Sometimes not intentional lah, so I would just say. "Sorry ah, can hold me further on the back. This way, I can feel your lead better." Which is also true :D

Jean (Lee) says:

"Sleazy" movements - unnecessary body contact! However, so far, I have not met any male dancers who give me the creeps... I guess I can always stomp on his feet if he tries anything funny!

Mary says:

I believe everyone has a different gauge of what is sleazy, based on their own personality and comfort level to physical touch. But here're a few tips on how to detect a sleazebag on the dancefloor:

1) His eye-level is always slightly down at your pair of er..congas

2) He only asks sexily dressed girls for dances

3) His repertoire of moves only consists of grinding the girl What to do when such sleazebags try anything funny on you? Hit him on the head with a cowbell and kick him hard in his *guiro!

(*A serrated Calabash gourd, with ridges carved in the skin, scraped with a stick and used as an instrument. Very popular in Afro-Cuban music as well as the music of other Latin American countries.)

Kelvin (Yee) says:

Well, usually for guys we don't have much problem with that. Not meaning we welcome that (unless.....she's....really.....hehehe), but I think there "tikobu"s are less common than "tikopeks". Anyway, the girl don't control the kind of moves in the dance.

 

The most common sleazy moves are:

 

- the guys sliding his slimy, wormy face (face up) from bottom up from very near the lady's bosom. It's a duck move by the guy himself actually. He should not do it so near to her or at least he could have turn his nasty face away from her and to the side.

 

- another one is those wrap moves where the guy's arm end up wrapping around the girl's body. Guys should follow closely to her, if not, his arm will end up touching her bosom. If the guy is close to the gal already and his arms are still high up and touching her, then 70% chance deliberate, 30% he is a beginner and does not know about his bad habit.

 

What should the gal do? What are the chances of sleazy moves being done deliberately is really tough to gauge. The above is just an illustration.

 

Best way is to tell him frankly that certain moves he does make you feel uncomfortable. Be explicit, tell him why. But do this in private at first.

 

For repeated offenders:

 

 1) tell him of in his face and make sure that people dancing nearby hears it. This is to scare him off with embarassment, plus it serves as a warning

 

2) Simply tell him, " I don't want to dance with you, cos' I don't like the way you excute your moves. Call for help if he pulls you to the dance floor. He has no right to do that

 

3) OR, you may like to get physical too. Style excessively and raise you elbows as high as possible during turns. Don't miss his face. Say sorry, but be a repeated offender this time. A TASTE OF HIS OWN MEDICINE.